My wife doesn’t love me

[Legit]

She told me she don’t love me anymore but wants to still live with me and take care of me. I’m so depressed.

 

[Hardboy]

I am so sorry to hear that bro. I am going through stuff with my wife too.

 

[MindlessWork]

Have you tried to work things out?

 

[Legit]

Kind of but she said she doesn’t love me. How can I come back from that?

 

[Legit]

I am so sorry to hear that bro. I am going through stuff with my wife too.

Sorry bro.

 

[Bybon]

She still wants to live with you and take care of you? No sex?

You need to get out of that bro.

 

[01dragonslayer]

Men do not think like women do. You have to understand that she is about feelings, and Love has many shades when it comes to women’s emotional connections to it.

When someone says they love you, these are the sweetest words in the world.

Men need a better definition of Love… Not just for ourselves, but for what that word “love” means to that spouse or female significant other.

“Loving” someone - an intense feeling of deep affection…

…..Is fundamentally different than…..

“Being in Love” which is a state of arousal. If your spouse is “in love” with someone, they feel romantically or sexually attracted to them, and this “in love” person becomes central and very important to your spouse’s feelings and needs for sexual fulfilment.

To women “Being in Love” is a measure of their willingness to engage in sexual relations with this “In Love” object of their Desire.

She is talking foreplay, lots of it… Orgasms, with a capital “O”…. Not quickies and half-cuddles.

Women also have this language down pat, and instinctively understand it at a beneath the skin level.

And Women, who don’t natively speak “Men”, absolutely believe that all Men also understand what it is she is saying.

This would be hilarious if it wasn’t so true.

And is why relationships drift apart.

Ladies: Men don’t speak “Female” and can NOT read your minds.

Please start re-romancing your significant other.

Do date nights.

Spend time together – and I do mean time. Not Sex – you are Dating her…

AND THERE IS NO SURE THING HERE.

You have to get her to be “In Love” with you again.

Walk together, around the neighborhood, in a park, on the beach… just be together. And walk and hold hands a lot. Touch is so important in keeping the connection alive.

When indoors, do you spend time reading together?

Quiet reading together can be emotionally close for some women. Read books, or just to read the newspaper together.

In bed? Maybe.. whatever she and you are comfortable with.

A Sunday Newspaper together in bed, was for my wife and I our weekend joy. We were in silence, we were in a sort of meditative state. We were not rushing and we could enjoy each other’s company all the while learning about new things we could share together.

We were intellectually and spiritually close without any effort at being so.

You two could Meditate together. You both could work on inner peace and spiritual connections.

And you two need to spend time when there are no stressors, no daily worries. Don’t talk about the bills. Don’t talk about family. Don’t talk politics.

Instead pay attention to her. Complement her on her hair, on her eyes, on how soft she feels to your touch.

Concentrate on what you would talk to her about when you two were dating. Not the conversations you have when you put on your “Marriage hats”.

This will naturally open up levels of conversation you likely haven’t visited in a long time.

And without being in the moment with just her, she started to lose that “Lovin’ Feeling”.

The daily marital life is never what keeps her “In Love”, the now rare “Dating life” is what does.

Giving her all of your attention is the key to her heart.

Once you have unlocked her heart, now you have to build new memories together. Go exploring new places like restaurants, or vacation places, or even weekend drives in the country.

My wife and I used to travel on backroads and stop at farmer’s markets, small cafes, little known parks, and sometimes find little towns that had great shops and festivals and just gave us an excuse to find a bed and breakfast for the night.

On small budgets, just go shopping together.

Indulge in reading greeting cards from the store displays to one another, or finding really odd products that are whimsical.

Sometimes find just the right makings for a cooked-in dinner date you will have that evening. Literally starting to salivate over the flavors you are putting into your shopping cart.

Hold each other… hold hands, touch her cheek, look into her eyes.

When you see love there you will know that she is back “In Love" with you again.

 

[Legit]

Everything feels different now. Her fire for me is gone. She just wants to talk on the phone with her friends.

I do those things every day. Something happened and she lost her love for me.

I’m sitting in my car because I don’t even want to go in. I feel like I need to leave but we have a child. When she told me she didn’t love me anymore it ruined everything. My heart is broken.

 

[Legit]

We are still together but she gives me no affection and I have to beg for sex. I do everything for her.

I know we need to separate.

 

[01dragonslayer]

So sorry ta hear this my friend. Have you talked to her about separating?

 

[Legit]

She wants nothing to change but just doesn’t want to give me affection or sex. I workout all the time and take trt. I don’t want to go without sex.

She needs me financially.

 

[Legit]

Honestly I feel alone.

 

[Hardboy]

Men do not think like women do. You have to understand that she is about feelings, and Love has many shades when it comes to women’s emotional connections to it.

When someone says they love you, these are the sweetest words in the world.

Men need a better definition of Love… Not just for ourselves, but for what that word “love” means to that spouse or female significant other.

“Loving” someone - an intense feeling of deep affection…

…..Is fundamentally different than…..

“Being in Love” which is a state of arousal. If your spouse is “in love” with someone, they feel romantically or sexually attracted to them, and this “in love” person becomes central and very important to your spouse’s feelings and needs for sexual fulfilment.

To women “Being in Love” is a measure of their willingness to engage in sexual relations with this “In Love” object of their Desire.

She is talking foreplay, lots of it… Orgasms, with a capital “O”…. Not quickies and half-cuddles.

Women also have this language down pat, and instinctively understand it at a beneath the skin level.

And Women, who don’t natively speak “Men”, absolutely believe that all Men also understand what it is she is saying.

This would be hilarious if it wasn’t so true.

And is why relationships drift apart.

Ladies: Men don’t speak “Female” and can NOT read your minds.

Please start re-romancing your significant other.

Do date nights.

Spend time together – and I do mean time. Not Sex – you are Dating her…

AND THERE IS NO SURE THING HERE.

You have to get her to be “In Love” with you again.

Walk together, around the neighborhood, in a park, on the beach… just be together. And walk and hold hands a lot. Touch is so important in keeping the connection alive.

When indoors, do you spend time reading together?

Quiet reading together can be emotionally close for some women. Read books, or just to read the newspaper together.

In bed? Maybe.. whatever she and you are comfortable with.

A Sunday Newspaper together in bed, was for my wife and I our weekend joy. We were in silence, we were in a sort of meditative state. We were not rushing and we could enjoy each other’s company all the while learning about new things we could share together.

We were intellectually and spiritually close without any effort at being so.

You two could Meditate together. You both could work on inner peace and spiritual connections.

And you two need to spend time when there are no stressors, no daily worries. Don’t talk about the bills. Don’t talk about family. Don’t talk politics.

Instead pay attention to her. Complement her on her hair, on her eyes, on how soft she feels to your touch.

Concentrate on what you would talk to her about when you two were dating. Not the conversations you have when you put on your “Marriage hats”.

This will naturally open up levels of conversation you likely haven’t visited in a long time.

And without being in the moment with just her, she started to lose that “Lovin’ Feeling”.

The daily marital life is never what keeps her “In Love”, the now rare “Dating life” is what does.

Giving her all of your attention is the key to her heart.

Once you have unlocked her heart, now you have to build new memories together. Go exploring new places like restaurants, or vacation places, or even weekend drives in the country.

My wife and I used to travel on backroads and stop at farmer’s markets, small cafes, little known parks, and sometimes find little towns that had great shops and festivals and just gave us an excuse to find a bed and breakfast for the night.

On small budgets, just go shopping together.

Indulge in reading greeting cards from the store displays to one another, or finding really odd products that are whimsical.

Sometimes find just the right makings for a cooked-in dinner date you will have that evening. Literally starting to salivate over the flavors you are putting into your shopping cart.

Hold each other… hold hands, touch her cheek, look into her eyes.

When you see love there you will know that she is back “In Love" with you again.

You are such an asset to everyone here brother. We are lucky to have you.

 

[Hardboy]

Honestly I feel alone.

I can relate to that. Hopefully things will get better bro.

 

[01dragonslayer]

She wants nothing to change but just doesn’t want to give me affection or sex. I workout all the time and take trt. I don’t want to go without sex.

She needs me financially.

Honestly I feel alone.

Dude.....I am so sorry about your situation. Have you considered ways to restore her feelings?
Please.... I am no way a counselor......just concerned about a bro's well being.

 

[01dragonslayer]

You are such an asset to everyone here brother. We are lucky to have you.

Just concerned.....thats gotta be one of the worst feelings ever.

 

[Hardboy]

To feel alone when you’re with with your family. I can’t think of much that’s worse bro.

 

[Hardboy]

Honestly I feel alone.

You got us man always.

 

[Legit]

I’m ok guys thanks
I need to focus on the gym more and less on my relationship.

 

[01dragonslayer]

I’m ok guys thanks
I need to focus on the gym more and less on my relationship.

I understand brotha but your relationship with your wife is always worth making an effort. Please don't ignore her.